I’ve waited for a very long time to announce that I’ve decided to hang up my hat as a Babywearing Consultant. I’ve been mindful of the timing of sharing this news, but as with anything there never seems to be a ‘right’ time…
Hanging up my hat was something that I first considered around Christmas time, but then my tax return in April was the final straw. Sadly, I’ve run my consultancy business wearthemwithlove at a loss for 3 + years and I simply cannot continue to lose money. I’ve poured endless amounts of time, energy, passion and love into this venture – all of it unfortunately has been totally unsustainable. I found myself exhausted, stressed, anxious, a shadow of my former self. Last year I had to parent alone for almost 6 months of the year. That period was extremely challenging.
It has taken me a while to come to terms with this decision; it is not one I have made lightly. I had great plans to grow my business, to be much more involved with die Trageschule ©, to become a trainer… but I always knew this decision had to be all or nothing and I just didn’t have the financial backing to make any of those plans happen.
wearthemwithlove was born out of my struggle as a new mum with a baby who cried a lot and did not want to be put down. My passion for babywearing developed through my need to cope and manage during a very fragile time in my life. Using a sling with Izzy saved me; I’ve seen myself in my clients hundreds of times. I feel a deep satisfaction knowing that I’ve supported so many parents at a time in their parenting journey that I know can often be a scary and lonely place. Carrying Izzy certainly helped us bond and heal after a traumatic birth, and because of this deep connection I have struggled to accept that I need to let this go. Of course I understand that our connection and attachment is life long, but in my mind I’ve really found it hard to separate the two.
I know that there are so many other amazing Babywearing Consultants carrying this crucial work forwards, into all corners of the UK and beyond and into many many settings where this important knowledge and skills are so needed and valued. I am so hopeful for the future of nurturing touch, carrying and all things responsive parenting. This work will always hold a special place in my heart. I look forward to being able to share my knowledge and skills in this area with friends and family that need carrying support and there being no pressure to ‘make money’ – it will be such a joy to give this as a gift to those who matter to me.
Thank you to everyone, those I have met, those I’ve had the pleasure to support, to work with, to teach, those I haven’t, the ‘likes’ here and ongoing feedback that has helped me, challenged me, pushed me on. What I have always loved about the babywearing world is the human-ness of it all. I have truly learnt so much.
I’m moving on (moving back to?) a more stripped back version of myself, a woman who enjoys being outside in nature in the elements, with my hands in the earth. I am going to be re-training to be a gardener (possibly a forest school leader or similar at some point) and hope to develop my (other) passion for nature. I hope to embrace more presence, with myself, my family, my friends. I intend to make space for me, to nurture myself again. I’ve found an amazing Red Tent group that has been very nourishing. Menstrual cycle awareness has opened my eyes to me, an amazing gift. I also intend on doing lots more yoga and exercise again. Izzy started school 2 weeks ago so we also have another chapter in our parenting journey about to unfold…
I have a new job 2 days a week working in a wonderful plant nursery that specialises in new and interesting varieties of hardy herbaceous perennials. For another 2 days a week I’ll be gardening locally as I have been part time for the last year behind the scenes and then on the other day I’ll be studying towards my RHS Level 2 qualification to formalise my knowledge and practical skills. Exciting times ahead, feels good to be turning over a new leaf!
If you’ve made it this far into this very long post – my deepest gratitude to you for taking the time. Thank you to all those I have supported and worked with during my babywearing journey, it has been such a pleasure to have crossed paths with you.
In the near future, all wearthemwithlove social media pages and my website will be deactivated /removed. If for any reason you would like to contact me please do so by email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Love and blessings to all,